Brain Based Parenting
Brain Based Parenting, The Boys Ranch Podcast for families.
We all know how hard being a parent is, and sometimes it feels like there are no good answers to the difficult questions families have when their kids are struggling.
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Brain Based Parenting
Fostering Healthy Digital Habits in Families: The Positive Side of Technology
The Brain-Based Parenting team explores how technology can positively impact families when used with intention and appropriate boundaries.
Technology, when used wisely, can be a powerful tool for families. Instant access to information fuels children’s curiosity and learning, while calls, texts, and video chats help family members stay connected across distances. Safety features like location tracking give parents peace of mind, and educational apps, YouTube tutorials, and even Bible apps or faith-based podcasts provide unique opportunities for growth. Games and creative tools can build skills and encourage parent–child bonding. At the same time, practicing good “technology hygiene” is essential, being intentional about both the quantity and quality of tech use. Setting clear expectations from the start, modeling healthy habits as parents, and keeping devices in shared family spaces rather than bedrooms all help prevent conflict and strengthen family connection.
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Welcome to Brain-Based Parenting, the Boys Ranch podcast for families. We all know how hard being a parent is and sometimes it feels like there are no good answers to the difficult questions families have when their kids are struggling. Our goal each week will be to try and answer some of those tough questions, utilizing the knowledge, experience and professional training Cal Farley's Boys Ranch has to offer. Now. Here is your host. Cal Farley's Boys Ranch has to offer Now. Here is your host. Cal Farley's Staff Development Coordinator, joshua Sprott.
Speaker 2:Hello and welcome. Today we're going to discuss the positive side of technology use. Through that today, I'm joined by Emily Tennyson.
Speaker 4:Clinical Intervention Specialist Suzanne Wright. Vice President of Training and Clinical Intervention, Chloe Hewitt, Youth Programs.
Speaker 5:Administrator.
Speaker 6:Sam Serna, Assistant Administrator of Residential Communities.
Speaker 2:All right. So today, since we're talking about technology, I thought for our question today, I'd ask you all what is your favorite phone app and how much time per day do you use it?
Speaker 5:I don't feel like mine is very exciting. So it's either going to be my email, because I check my email all the time, or it is going to be my fitness app that I track my protein and has my workouts on it. So that is the app I probably use the most. Probably an hour, hour and a half or more on that. I have no idea on my email.
Speaker 6:My favorite app is YouTube. It's because I like to learn things. If I want to learn how to do something, I can go to YouTube and learn. I learned how to change an alternator during YouTube and there's a lot of good podcasts and informational videos. I'm into a lot of things. I keep up with my favorite shows and my favorite games things like that all through YouTube and listen through music, so it's a big part of my day.
Speaker 4:I'm a little embarrassed to admit this, but I watch a lot of TikToks and I've learned a lot of wonderful life hacks through that. But recently I've really enjoyed the chat GPT app, because you can turn a dog into a person or vice versa, and I refuse to admit how much time I've spent doing that.
Speaker 3:Mine would probably be Instagram, specifically the Instagram stories, because I get to follow my niece and what she's doing throughout her day as she grows up.
Speaker 4:So I love Instagram. How about you, Josh?
Speaker 2:You have to answer the question too, yeah mine's probably the most embarrassing of everyone's, and you probably all know what mine is is Pokemon Go. I've been playing since the first day it came out and it's been I don't even probably embarrassing how much time I do spend playing it, but I do get a lot of walking in using it.
Speaker 4:You taught my daughter how to use Pokemon Go before we took a trip, all right.
Speaker 2:So we're going to talk about the positive side of technology today. So how have you seen technology benefit kids and families when used well?
Speaker 5:So I think it's amazing to see how phones can give us information. Sometimes my kids have questions like I have no idea how to answer. So like, for example, my daughter had a field trip at the zoo yesterday. So we get in the car and I'm like what was your favorite animal? She's like the cheetah. How fast does a cheetah run? I don't know the answer to that.
Speaker 5:So then I use my phone to look up how fast a cheetah runs, right, and so I think that there's some of that that we can kind of like. That are really cool inquisitive questions our kids have and we have a tool that we can use to answer that for them, right? I also think there's a lot of cool learning apps that I've seen my kids use now and I actually used. I type pretty decently fast and I used a kids dunking basketball game to learn how to type fast when I was like in eighth grade, and so it's just funny like I was thinking back on like on the things that I've used technology for growing up and and so I do think that and currently my kids I use like sight reading and sight words, letter sounds for my daughter and that's usually what I put on in the background when we're getting ready. So I think there is a lot of things that can be used well, that we can. Sometimes we always view technology as a negative and there are positives.
Speaker 4:You know, when your kids are old enough to have cell phones, it really increases your ability to stay in touch and to communicate, especially if they play sports or they're involved in other activities. It's great to know where are they. You know what time should I go pick them up, and I wonder how we ever managed that type of thing before we had cell phones. But even outside of that, it was a way to maintain playful engagement with my teenagers, who, you know, may have woke up in a bad mood, or maybe we were in a conflict over you know something.
Speaker 4:But I could send a playful meme and kind of keep a connection there.
Speaker 6:Yeah, I think it also can be used to communicate with distant family members. Yeah, so FaceTime is a good tool to be able to see people face to face. Yeah, obviously, phone calls what phones do, so it's a good way to keep the family connected. Even though you're, you got a lot of space. Also, I like to, I like to like. I have grown up kids and my daughter's, you know, super special. I'll send her a little heart emoji.
Speaker 6:Yeah, and just that's all I gotta do. A little blue heart and she knows that, hey, I'm thinking about you today yeah, doesn't have to be a big conversation.
Speaker 4:Yeah, well, and emily, you already mentioned it's a cool way to keep up with your niece.
Speaker 3:Yes, we send videos to our little family group chat all the time to watch her grow up.
Speaker 2:So what might be some surprising underrated positive effects of phones and technology for kids today?
Speaker 5:You know, I think we've already talked about that. You can get a hold of them. Suzanne was kind of talking about that. That is helpful. I kind of have like an interesting story when I was thinking about this Our life group leader at church, like the first week of school, her husband is a principal at the elementary.
Speaker 5:So her oldest son was at the intermediate this year and had to take a bus over to the elementary school to get to her husband. Well, he doesn't have a phone but he has an Apple Watch and they pay for a service on it. Well, the bus didn't take him there, it took him to the high school. And so he notices that they drive past his dad's work. So he calls his mom on his watch and she tracks him and she talks and tells me the story as she was freaking out. She's like I'm just freaking out like trying to get to my kid, she's like.
Speaker 5:But I just tracked him, I went as fast as I could to catch up to that bus because I could track his watch. And then I stood, I was, I was behind him and so he could see me and I drove all the way and then I got him. But I just thought like how cool is that? That it couldn't have happened when I was a kid, but it was a way that, like it, there was a positive effect of she could see where her son is, as he was, as he was stressed out and she was like talking him through breathing techniques because she's a counselor, and so she was like breathing with him as she was like behind him and he could see her, and so I felt that was a really cool way of felt safety in that situation.
Speaker 2:Those trackers are cool Like my daughter's been learning how to drive and they have an app on the phone that kind of tells you where your kids are and as they've gone on their first like solo trips, you know around the neighborhood or out into the McDonald's or wherever you know. It's kind of nerve wracking, wondering if they're okay. But I just watched them on my app the whole time and the death scene drive. It tells the speed limit they're going, that they weren't speeding and doing all kinds of good stuff. So it gave me a lot of peace of mind being able to kind of watch that too.
Speaker 4:My daughters used an app and I apologize, I can't think of the name of it right in the moment, but it's a way to study for tests, and so you enter in questions and you type in the answers and then it will randomly give you a quiz.
Speaker 1:Quizlet. That's what it's called Quizlet.
Speaker 4:And if other people have studied for the same test, maybe using the same textbook, you could share your quiz, and so my kids always thought what a cool use of technology, but in reality they were studying. They were entering the information, and so it looked like it was cooler than just looking at a piece of paper to study. But in reality it was just a way to use technology to pique their interest and keep them engaged, and I thought that was a great tool. My daughter still uses it in college.
Speaker 5:I will say I also use a timer frequently with my children, so like if we're somewhere and they've already given them a five minute limit or they're needing to switch a toy, they're like well, you set the timer and so ironically, that has been used for bedtime and for toys and all the things I really enjoy YouTube tutorials.
Speaker 3:You can learn so many skills just looking up a tutorial on YouTube. So true, from crafting to cooking. I agree.
Speaker 6:Yeah, also can boost creativity, you know, because a lot of a lot of kids have. Well, they know what it is now. I mean, they have a lot of access to some of the things, depending on what the parents let them do. But it's a good form of self-expression for teenagers and things. My little grandson at one time was building Legos and then I saw him we had a little Kindle. It's a very limited thing but it does have a camera. I guess he can record things and I'm like what are you doing he's like I'm making a video.
Speaker 6:So he was making a step-by-step how to build something and I thought that was really cool, although he didn't have a method into post 86, but he had seen YouTube and understands that people get in front of cameras and build things, so for him this is like normal and so he's trying to teach them. I thought that was really cool.
Speaker 4:There's so many creative things. You mentioned YouTube. There's a creator that puts out videos that are to help you if you struggle with ADHD. They help you study. And so it's a framework. You have it on in the background and it guides you through certain things, and I know some adults with ADHD who put that on while they work on a project for their job and they've found that to be very effective. So so many resources out there.
Speaker 2:Speaking of creative ways, what are some creative ways to make phones and technology a tool for connection as opposed to isolation?
Speaker 5:So it's funny. I was like, when I was thinking about this question, I was thinking about, like what my husband does with my son frequently. So when we're waiting for somewhere, you know it is easy for us to pull up YouTube or something that he wants to watch, because he also likes to watch all of the building or the new toys as they unleash them and show them all. But my husband plays chess on his phone and he has taught my son how to play chess on his phone, and so what they do is they actually learn chess.
Speaker 5:If we're sitting at a restaurant waiting, or the other day we were waiting for our daughter's program to start, and so austin lets him put it on like the beginner, which actually shows him an assist, and then he makes layton do like the next step, the more challenging one, where it doesn't assist you, and so that's something that they have shared together is they both are interested in chess and do it together. My daughter loves to look at all the old photos, so her thing is when she has my phone is she'll pull up all her old photos or videos of her birthdays or when she was a baby, and so that's kind of like we. It's funny. She makes me go down memory lane with my phone.
Speaker 3:So, speaking of games, I love with iPhones you can send games and play like in text message. I think it's pigeon pigeon and I love playing the eight ball or the basketball game. Those are two of my favorites.
Speaker 2:So what about? How can you use technology to support faith development?
Speaker 5:You know, this one was easy for me to my daughter I talked about this in a previous podcast is obsessed with Joseph, so much.
Speaker 5:And so now we listen to. She wanted to learn more about Joseph, so I was like, let me find this podcast and so it's a Bible study for kids, and so it is a like 40 minute. They have two parts on Joseph. So she and so frequently at least once a week on our drive out to ranch it's an hour we listen to Joseph, or we listen to part two of Joseph on the way home. So that is one way that we've utilized it. She also has the crazy biggest heart for worship, and so she has her own worship play mix that I'll put on as well, and then she will be worshiping in the backseat. So that's some ways we have used faith development with her.
Speaker 4:I think it's so wonderful that you can have the Bible app on your phone. I was never good at remembering to grab a Bible as I headed out the house to church or wherever, but I always have it right there on my phone. It's just, you know, a touch away, and I find that great.
Speaker 2:Kind of embarrassed to say I've never actually read through the Bible from start to finish until two years ago, and it was using the Bible app to listen to on the way to work every day. My wife and my daughters and I, we just went through it every single day and it was a good way to just kind of hear it all together and talk about it and it was just a real good way to kind of finally complete the entire Bible.
Speaker 4:Well, and just like with anything, if you have a question, google's at your fingertips, you know, and so that you can use that technology to answer your questions, to solve a dispute, you know. But again, if there's some misunderstanding, it's so much easier now to find the answers that you need.
Speaker 2:There's so many times my girls will have pretty deep questions about things and sometimes I don't know the answer and then so I'll just go to ChatGPT or one of the other AIs and just ask it, and it gives you all kinds of different things and never consider that.
Speaker 6:It's also a way for people to stay connected with their church groups. Yeah, message, prayer boards or message with your groups and things.
Speaker 5:Me's what I, we're me and like five girls from church are actually doing this like 75 faith and hard challenge. So it's actually just as much about being fit and eating well as it is growing your faith. And so you have to read a chapter of the Bible, and so we're doing Luke right now. But it's just really interesting, as we're studying it, we're all like, hey, what did you get from this parable, or what did this parable or what did this, and so that's, we've spent like a lot of times like researching different things just by having more dialogue each day. So I mean that is true Like we've developed this group and learned a lot from each other.
Speaker 2:So how can technology help students who struggle with traditional classroom learning?
Speaker 5:You know, I am amazed. You know, with my son being in kinder, he comes home and he tells me what brain breaks are, right, like I guess I should just know that, and I don't know what that is. But essentially it's that they just get him up and watch a short video and it might be that they dance around or they jump around or they sing a song, and so I've been amazed that they have now implemented that more in the classroom, because as we were kids, it was like you were going to sit there and you're not allowed to move. If you move or you get up, and it's that we've just come so far. I know, even in training, when y'all do training, josh and Suzanne you're always like, hey, let's get up and move.
Speaker 5:So I think that there's a lot to say that we allow that in the classroom now. But I also think it's cool because they have that giant smart board and they'll play a game on it together or do the brain break. And one of the things we utilize at our high school and our middle school is that they can have headphones and listen to music while working, and that has come light years. You know, we couldn't do that as kids and so. But I put music on when I work on a project and so I think those are some ways that we can break it up compared to what it was before.
Speaker 4:And if you have a learning struggle, there's an app for that. Yeah Right, there's so many creative people who put structure around helping any type of challenge or disability, and so if you, you know, if you know your child has anxiety or ADHD, you can look up an app for that.
Speaker 2:I'll say too, like just helping my kids with their homework. That was one of the most stressful things ever until I started figuring out how to utilize different resources on phone and apps and stuff like that, and it's really made homework time a lot less stressful for me, not feeling so inadequate, helping my kids with their just basic fractions and stuff. So in what ways can phones or tablets support a child's learning or in creativity?
Speaker 5:You know, I have a really close friend that her son is obsessed with drawing and so there is like Emily was talking about. There are different tutorials, so it is literally called Art Hub and they can draw anything and it breaks it down from the very first line to all and he can draw any Pokemon Godzilla, which my son's obsessed with godzilla and so because he loved it and he was showing how good his drawings were, my son was like, oh, I want to learn and watch art hub and I was like I didn't even know this existed and so it's so cool like they learn how to draw it and then they color it like it, so that I thought that's a really neat way. I mean, there's just so much on youtube that you can learn so well and sam sharing that story about your grandson.
Speaker 4:who knows that he won't grow up and have a YouTube channel? But it's you know, it's just. You have access to so many more things to spark your creativity than prior to the Internet. We were reading a book or playing in the dirt, and both of those are excellent activities. I highly recommend. But we didn't know.
Speaker 5:You know, it was just, our world was more limited you know, and it's not really a phone or tablet, but like my son loves wildcrats and so I love that show too, because I like they literally compared like an alligator and a crocodile and all the differences they have, all the similarities, and then like shows them and educates them on all of it and I'm like, hey, that's really neat and he loves all that kind of stuff.
Speaker 5:His favorite books are like who Would Win and it gives two battles of like whale and a squid is what we read about last night, and so I have learned a lot just because of what his interests are. Wild Kratts is pretty nice.
Speaker 6:Wild.
Speaker 2:Kratts is awesome.
Speaker 6:Yeah, it supports, right. So whatever they're learning already, like at school and things and things. You know, I like to use this app called duolingo to learn just different languages. I already speak spanish, so I had bought a subscription for the whole family. So if you guys want to learn spanish, let's all get in there and let's and, and you can compete and you can join together and do like challenges and things like that. So it was fun for a while. But also, if they're doing spanish at school, this is just a way to support and I'm sure there's tons of apps, yeah, like apps and things. So if you're having a struggle, there's a way to reinforce something and maybe a more fun or creative way, because some kids learn Everybody learns in different ways, so maybe that's another creative approach for it.
Speaker 2:So what do you hope kids will carry with them into adulthood about how they use technology?
Speaker 5:You know, I really hope my kids are better than I am at technology really because I don't feel like I'm that great at it, and so I really do hope that they have more talent with it, because there's so many careers that are beneficial to that. But I also really hope that they're good at typing. I feel like nowadays sometimes people aren't typing as much like traditional typing, so I really want them to both still have that skill.
Speaker 3:I hope kids will understand that technology can be used as a tool to enhance their life but also recognize when it's draining to kind of have those boundaries set up in place.
Speaker 6:It's a tool. Technology is a tool. It's not a replacement for relationships.
Speaker 2:So that actually transitions perfectly into my next question. What comes to your mind when you hear the phrase technology, technology, hygiene?
Speaker 5:Being aware of your technology use and watching the amount you use. It is what comes to my mind, I think you also have to focus on.
Speaker 4:what apps are you on? Are you looking at information, like Emily said, that drains you, or are you looking at information that bolsters you? You know, even you know Facebook's been around a long time now but are you on Facebook watching people post negative things that fire you up and make you angry? You know, then, that's not healthy, that's not good for you, and so sometimes you need to. Even for us as adults, we need to put boundaries around how we use technology and the amount of time we spend. What time of the day are we? You know, if you're looking at technology on your phone right before you go to bed, it can cause sleep interruptions. So I think all of that's important for kids, but just as important for us as adults.
Speaker 3:I do think boundaries are very important. I have an iPhone, and one of my favorite parts of an iPhone is the focus settings, and so I can set up a very specific time for my phone to go to sleep, and it will absolutely limit the notifications I receive, and I only have it set up to where calls come through from my mom or my dad or very important family, and everything else is silenced, and it probably starts 45 minutes before I want to actually go to sleep.
Speaker 6:I think hygiene is health right, and so when I was in the military, I mean there was time set up they call it personal hygiene time and it was like a short time, but that's the time the soldier's supposed to brush their teeth and take care of your stuff, no matter where you are in the field or at the barracks, or you had this time. So I equate that to just like everything else. Right, it's important enough. The military builds it into a schedule. It's that important. So that just means being aware. Be that important. So that just means being aware.
Speaker 6:Be aware that you got to take care of yourself in all aspects. Take care of your and that includes your technology use, like I think Suzanne said something real good too you got to be careful what you're also putting in right. So, hey, if I'm hearing something that just upsets me in the morning, that's probably not something I need to be doing first thing, right? I may not really like these things, but maybe I don't want to hear something controversial first thing in the morning or things like that. But I do think it's all about awareness and mindfulness too.
Speaker 2:When I think about hygiene, I think about how we learned hygiene, and it's usually from our parents and caregivers, and I think the same thing's true with technology hygiene. We, as adults and caregivers, need to make sure we're modeling how we want our kids to use it too. We can't tell them one thing and us do the complete opposite. If you could give one piece of advice to a parent about guiding their kids in tech use, what would that be?
Speaker 5:Connection is key. Not all technology is bad, but monitoring it and realizing we all need to limit it. That includes us and it's okay to put it down.
Speaker 4:It'll be there tomorrow. Yeah, I think you need to be sure there's a balance between on-screen time and in real life time. Real life connections, real life relationships. Go outside, look at the sun put your feet in the grass.
Speaker 6:Stay engaged with what they're doing and ask questions.
Speaker 3:Mine kind of goes off of that. Stay curious, what apps are they using? What needs are those apps meeting, and is there another way those needs could be met outside of technology, to help find that balance.
Speaker 6:That's great, emily, and also you've got to be aware as a parent because there's all these apps too that they're free and then they're not free.
Speaker 4:Yeah.
Speaker 6:Depending on what you're doing, right. That's why I think it's important to pay attention. What are they doing? Because you know you can accidentally spend money or you know they're built to also kind of suck you in. So parents do got to be aware that there's real predatory apps out there that seem fun, especially like games. They seem fun, but they're kind of pay to win that's what gamers call it pay to win and those things can suck anybody into that.
Speaker 2:So what are some simple ways that parents can model healthy tech habits for their kids?
Speaker 5:Putting the phones, tablets, computers away. We're going to Colorado and so I am very excited to not have any service. Sam, you cannot call me Sam doesn't call me on vacation. I'm having a hard time, but, yeah, like I think, you can take a vacation where maybe there isn't service or you, or even you as a family, are intentional about. Hey, I'm not going to get my computers or any of that out today.
Speaker 4:Put the phones down during dinner, I think, depending on the age of your child. Not having a phone in the bedroom overnight, I think it's just so tempting for kids to stay up late anyway, but late engaged with other people, which makes the next morning really difficult. It makes it harder to pay attention at school. I think. Also computers have trained our brains to have a short attention span right. There's a 30-second TikTok or a minute TikTok, and if it lasts longer than that I'm already bored and my brain wants to go on to the next thing, and so we have to balance that out with being able to again pay attention in real life.
Speaker 6:Stay engaged with what you're doing. Unplug intentionally. When I was hanging out with some friends some years ago and one of us noticed that we were just on our phones and we were sitting at a restaurant and we were at a conference, and one of them said, hey, hang up and hang out. And I was like oh, what a cool statement, so that became my motto for the week hey.
Speaker 6:And I was like, oh, what a cool statement. So that became our motto for the week hey, hang up and hang out. When we're here, let's be present with each other, let's enjoy each other, let's learn each other so that was really cool.
Speaker 2:So how would you create boundaries around technology without making it feel like a punishment?
Speaker 3:I think this goes back to open communication. Just talk with your kids about why boundaries are important and offer choices when possible.
Speaker 5:Would you rather have your screen time after homework or after dinner?
Speaker 5:So yeah, I mean exactly what Emily's saying. I frequent conversations about this is the expectation from the beginning, like hey, you have this many shows or you have this amount of time At our house. For the most part we try to make them do their homework. If it's not right after school, then it's outside play, and then just because I know that, like, once my son has his show, then he's less like hey, and so then we're done right, like that's less of a battle for him and that's a conversation we've had with him. Hey, there's less of a battle now, because you've already got your homework done. Now, my daughter really doesn't love TV at all and so obviously they, and obviously they don't have phones, so it's not a battle with her really. But I do think maybe not necessarily making it look as a punishment or taking away Now kind of like what we do with the kids out here, like if their expectations aren't taken care of, so if their beds aren't made or they haven't done their homework, then hey, you don't get that until then.
Speaker 4:And so it's not necessarily that it's a punishment, it's just you've got to take care of business before that's given to you and also again set the role model, set the standard by how you manage your use of technology, so that if you're doing it and you're expecting the same of them, it feels less like punishment than if you've restricted their technology time but you're glued to your phone.
Speaker 5:Well, and I think that's so true, like I don't really even sure some, but I really try to put my phone down and I don't really watch TV till my kids go to bed. If I watch a show, it's that just because I really am trying to be intentional. They go to bed pretty early anyways, and so it's like I can give them those three hours.
Speaker 2:The best advice we got from a family member was to make sure you set the expectations ahead of time and we actually found some contracts online of things that were our expectations and went over them with our girls before they got their cell phones and we're pretty upfront with them we're going to be looking at your phones, we'll be, checking them whenever we want, not to, you know, invade their privacy, but just to make sure they're being safe on them, that they're going to put them up at night and charge them out of their rooms.
Speaker 2:And doing that all up front kept it from being a battle, if something happened. And so that was real helpful for us and there's a lot of good sample contracts online that you can kind of pick and choose from if you want to do that. That was kind of helpful for us to make it just work for your family.
Speaker 6:I like that. Everybody here said it's so much about the conversation about it, and I'd just like to add that it's how you frame it. Let's talk about what they're gaining and not what they're losing Gaining some more time with us or some connection time with us, or a time to learn and be with us, which is really important, if they think about it later.
Speaker 4:You know, my kids are grown now. But when they were at home they would say why can't we have a TV in our bedroom?
Speaker 4:And that was just never allowed at my house and you weren't allowed to have the computer in your bedroom. Those were, you know, public space activities in the living room, and they would come home and say, well, but so-and-so gets to do this and so-and-so gets to do that, and I would jokingly say that's because her parents don't like her as much as I like you. Right, I like you, I want to spend time with you, and so I, you know I want to be interacting with you. If I were to allow you to have a TV and a computer in your room, you'd never come out, right, your needs for connection, you would feel like they were met adequately, and so for that reason, you're going to have to come out here in the living room with me.
Speaker 2:Well, thank you so much for using your technology to listen to us today. A really great use of your technology would be to give us a five-star review and share with all your friends on social media and your family about how much you love brain-based parenting. Until next time you might have to loan out your frontal lobes, Just make sure you remember and get them back.
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