Handling Disrespect: Respect Grows When We Build Trust

Disrespect can show up in a thousand tiny ways a blunt “you’re not very smart, are you?” a dismissive “I know” a joke that lands like a punch. We wanted to get past the lectures and punishments and talk about what actually builds respect inside a child’s brain over time. we talk about what respect is, what it is not, and why the hardest moments are often the most teachable.

We break respect into two clear categories: the respect tied to positional authority and the respect every person deserves because of basic human dignity. From there, we dig into a common parenting trap: expecting respect as the foundation instead of treating relationship as the foundation. We connect the dots to attachment and trust, why classrooms can be tough places for respect, and why teenagers are wired to push for independence. If you’ve ever felt pulled into a power struggle, you’ll hear practical language that keeps correction focused on behavior rather than attacking the child.

One of the biggest takeaways is the “emotional piggy bank” model: connection and meeting needs create deposits, while redirections create withdrawals. When the account is empty, disrespect comes fast. We also talk about self-respect versus entitlement, how sports can teach empathy, and how social media and “kid content” can quietly train kids to mock adults. If you want brain-based parenting strategies to teach respect, handle disrespect, and stay regulated under pressure, subscribe, share this with a friend, and leave a review so more families can find the show.

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Welcome And Why Respect Matters

SPEAKER_01 0:00

Welcome to Brain-Based Parenting, the Boys Ranch podcast for families. We all know how hard being a parent is, and sometimes it feels like there are no good answers to the difficult questions families have when their kids are struggling. Our goal each week will be to try and answer some of those tough questions, utilizing the knowledge, experience, and professional training Cal Farley's Boys Ranch has to offer. Now here is your host, Cal Farley's Staff Development Coordinator, Joshua Sprock.

SPEAKER_05 0:29

Hello and welcome. Today we're going to talk about one of the constant parenting struggles, teaching respect and how to handle disrespect.

SPEAKER_00 0:35

To do that today, I'm joined by Sam Cerna, Assistant Administrator of Residential Communities.

SPEAKER_05 0:40

Danny Pechtel, Executive Director of the Boys Ranch.

SPEAKER_02 0:42

Suzanne Ratt, Vice President of Training and Intervention.

Honest Words That Sting

SPEAKER_05 0:45

All right, let's start it off with our question of the day. And I think it's going to be a fun one. What is something your kids have said that was technically honest but definitely not respectful?

SPEAKER_03 0:54

All right, I'll go first on this one. So Sunday we get to church a little bit early and they're doing the countdown thing. And we've, since the kids of little, when we're in boredom times, we play those games that we played when we were younger, like I spy, or you know, the different games where you're observing things and you're talking through things. And so we're doing that. And then my 13-year-old Aiden says, I spy something great. And we're guessing. And eventually he says, Oh no, it's mommy's here. Honest, not respectful in church. So the direction's gonna be a little bit different. So yeah, that's that's ours.

SPEAKER_02 1:30

Listeners would just like for you to confirm the safety and well-being of that child this morning.

SPEAKER_03 1:34

Yeah, he's good.

unknown 1:36

He's good.

SPEAKER_03 1:37

He's good. Me laughing probably did not help the situation for April at all.

SPEAKER_00 1:41

I mean, I got a pretty generic one. I mean, we when when my kids were teens, you know, they have tasks to do chores or whatever it was. Hey, I need you to do, I know technically, yes, I know you know. But it feels real dismissive when you just tell me you know, and then you don't go do it. So that's the one I thought of for.

SPEAKER_02 1:59

So my last name is right, which I like to use as incorrect. And my youngest daughter and I got an argument one time, I don't remember what it was about, but I said, Rosie, I've been right longer than you. And she said, But mama, I've been right all my life. Oh technically accurate.

SPEAKER_04 2:17

Respect for Rosie, that was quick and good.

SPEAKER_02 2:20

Yeah, yeah. She she is still alive and functioning today. So we got we got over that, but yeah, she nailed me.

SPEAKER_05 2:27

So I remember when I was helping my youngest daughter in fourth grade working on fraction homework, and I was really struggling. I mean, math is not my my skill set. She looked at me and she's like, You're not very smart, are you, Dad?

SPEAKER_04 2:38

Oh, which was correct.

What Respect Really Means

SPEAKER_05 2:40

Uh yeah, but and then I think she's like, Maybe I'll just go get mom to help you on help me. I'm like, Yes, that's that would be the right thing to do. Yes. All right. So when we talk about respect, what do we really mean? And how would you explain it in a way that kids can understand?

SPEAKER_00 2:54

I think respect is kind of like treating somebody good, whether I whether I like them or not, or whether they're acting right or not. I think uh respect is just something you generally do, you treat them like a person?

SPEAKER_03 3:04

I think the important thing for kids to understand with respect, there's a difference, the different kinds of respect. We have to explain there is positional authority or positional respect that they there's certain people in your life, like your principal or your teacher, you know, the police officer, whatever, that requires, just because of who they are, an X amount of kind of protocol and respect and the way we talk. But also, there's a way we respect each other that's not really positional, and it has to do with the right everybody has as human beings to be treated in a certain way, to be understood in a certain way, to be able to get a certain amount of whether it's allowance or politeness. And that's an important thing to understand is how do you define respectful, right? And what does it mean to respect not just authorities that have certain position or power over you that can make you pay for being disrespectful, but the way we should treat each other because it's the right way to do it. And I think that's when my kids were a little how I try to there's a way we treat each other and you treat other people that's right, that's okay. And understanding, and part of that is teaching kids the difference between this is a time I could be fun and silly, and this is a time where that comment about mommy's hair is just not okay. You know, when when is the time and the place and how do you learn those things? And I think that's a hard thing to teach kids is when is that comment okay? Or when is that action okay? And it could be the same person and the same action in some contexts, yeah, we're okay with that. In some contexts, it's not at all okay to be that way, you know, in this certain setting. And I I think that's one of the things we have to explain to kids, and you almost have to do it case by case. Because especially when they're little, they don't always understand why that was okay yesterday, right? But now you you can't do that.

SPEAKER_05 4:36

So I think many kids operate under the do unto others as they do unto you, treat others the way they treat you. But we try and teach respect is the golden rule, you know, do unto others as you would have them do unto you. Why is it important for kids to understand that difference?

SPEAKER_00 4:49

Well, because sometimes when people are doing stuff to you, right, that's not an appropriate thing to do back. Right. One is it could be a crime. Two, you know, it's it's just not the way people should operate. Sometimes they just don't know because kids believe things are fair or that they should be fair all the time. And what we know as we get older that that's not always true, right? There's a certain degree of fairness, or like Danny said earlier, like sometimes it's okay in this instance, sometimes it's not okay in that instance. But the golden rule to me is I can choose my own behaviors regardless of what you're doing.

Respect Starts With Relationship

SPEAKER_03 5:16

I think also along with the golden rule, and this is important in the other part of kind of what we were talking about earlier about learning respect is respect isn't just about the golden rule or being treated, but the golden rule teaches empathy. And an important part of understanding why we respect and why we treat people the way we treat them is empathy. The ability to understand what the other person's perspective is in thinking and feeling. Not only how would we want to be treated, but how do they want to be treated. And I think explaining this to kids is where we build empathy. The golden rule is the start of empathy. Well, how would that feel for you if we did it that way? But empathy gets deeper than this, and but without the empathy, respect is just something done by fear or reprisal rather than what we really want to do with them getting to respect is how we see and treat other people and kind of the empathetic right and wrongness to it.

SPEAKER_05 6:05

So, what might be some common misconceptions kids and maybe even adults have about what respect is and what it is not?

SPEAKER_02 6:11

I think that as adults, we frequently expect respect from kids just because we are older than them. Not not because we've attained a title or earned that respect, or we frequently don't think about where would they have learned how to respect another person, right? And so one of the things we talk a lot about here on our campus is the fact that we have to extend respect to the kids first and build relationship in order for to be able to ex expect respect back. Right? A lot of a lot of adults want respect to be the foundation. And in reality, respect comes way later in the process of relationship building.

SPEAKER_03 6:50

And I think to kind of go off what Suzanne said, one of our misconceptions is I'll respect them when they respect me. And that's an impossible cycle. Right? It's and this may go to a question one and two a little bit, is one of the things we have to work with kids is the idea of the way I respect people isn't always about them. It says something about me. The way that respect works is important. The way I treat people, I don't have to treat people that way. They haven't earned that. That's okay. But as a person, as who I am, as who I want to be, as as my own ideas and who I'm developing into be, I lend that respect even if it isn't earned. Because it's the right way to do it. And it's not what the other person has earned or received or positional, but it's the right way to treat people and it says more about me than it says about them.

SPEAKER_05 7:35

What about a misconception that if you respect someone, you approve of their behavior? Do you think that's a misconception that a lot of people have?

SPEAKER_00 7:42

Yeah, I think it's it certainly is because I I don't necessarily have to agree with them. I can disagree and still be respectful. Doesn't mean I like them less. It just means that what I think they're saying is wrong. But I can still do that in a respectful way. Hey, I respectfully disagree. I I don't I don't I see your point, but you know what I mean? There's a way to ha continue that conversation.

SPEAKER_03 8:00

Yeah, respect isn't condoning. It's it's not condoning, it's not saying what you're doing's okay, but respecting them is still okay. I I think this goes back to, you know, we we have a lot of faith-bathed ethos here. I mean, a lot of people, first century, didn't always treat Jesus the way he deserved, but he was always he was appropriately respectful back. And that's hard. That's hard, but that goes back to respect is about you, it's not about them. And you respecting them doesn't mean that you agree with them. It doesn't mean you agree with what they did, but you have a standard for how people should be treated, and that's what you do.

SPEAKER_05 8:31

So, Suzanne, you kind of alluded to this. How does a strong positive relationship between a parent and a child create the foundation for real respect?

SPEAKER_02 8:38

I think relationship is where that start, right? That we we've talked before on this podcast about the attachment, that relationship between early early caregivers and a child. Does that child learn that the earliest caregiver they have will meet their needs? That that's where this starts. Can I trust another person to take care of me, to meet my needs, to respond appropriately to me? And if that's true, then I can learn to do that for other people. And so that's very foundational and that's you know, that's a bare minimum, but I do think that that's where it starts. And if I haven't been appropriately cared for as an infant or a child, then I don't trust, I don't trust other people. And it's really hard for me to extend respect to somebody I can't trust.

SPEAKER_00 9:25

I wonder sometimes that's why a lot of kids have struggles in school. You know, you might have so many kids in a classroom that the teacher can't, I don't even know how they can connect with 20 kids or whatever at one point, especially early on in the in the school year when there's been really no time. And you're expecting kids to raise hands and move and stay in line or to be quiet in class and all those things that come along with it. Well, it's because that just seems 'cause without the relationship, it just seems very directive, right? And so the relationship is kind of the key for a kid to maybe want to do something with you. It doesn't feel so demanding, where a teacher's just trying to keep in order.

SPEAKER_03 9:55

And that's just one example is you know of that. It's a really good example though, especially when we think about where it respect gets difficult, is in adolescent development where they're naturally needing to push for some of that independence. And so you got a high school teacher that's got multiple classes, yeah. With, you know, in some of these bigger school districts, 30 to 50 kids each class, and they got six of them in a day, that's 300 kids, right? And and how do you build that, you know, and then they're they're already teenagers, so respect is already difficult. That's that's a challenge.

SPEAKER_00 10:23

And maybe maybe uh you guys correct me if I'm wrong here, but I was thinking about the correlation between coaching, right? Because coaches seem to have a little bit more respect. Maybe it's because they got a smaller, smaller team than the group of 300 kids they're dealing with. And you know, they have to teach fundamentals, and there's this kind of trust that has to happen while they're trying to teach, and they're they it's literally front line. You know, you have to show so there is a kids like seem to like coaches a lot when they have them. And I don't know what did y'all think, what do y'all think about?

SPEAKER_03 10:47

I think there's in the school district when you watch, I think there's a lot more time for those coaches to build those relationships. And because they're not just trying to move to the the next lesson and move through the thing, they're actively in the way they're coaching, building relationships with kids because they have to to get the task done.

SPEAKER_05 11:02

It's a it's a more relational situation, I think, sometimes than the I think also with coaches, they have that ability to connect because of what they give access to the kids. If I please the coach, I'm respectful to the coach, then I have a position on the team. And if I'm on the team, then I have a sense of belonging. And belonging is like one of the most important things that kids have or needs that kids have when that period of brain development.

SPEAKER_03 11:23

I also think when we go back to the question, how does strong positive relationship between a parent and a child create those foundations? You can't have the real conversation about when this is appropriate and when it's not, or is this the way we treat people if there's not a relation relationship there and there's not connection. You know, to go back to some of our TBRI principles, we've got to I mean connect before we create- but when we look at this, that connection, that relationship, then we can move into the hard conversation without the child feeling attacked. Because it's through that connection and that relationship that I can have a conversation about the behavior, and conversation remains at a behavioral level and not as you as a person. And that's a difficult thing to teach, but that's a foundation of respect, is that we see the person for the person and for their worth, then we address the issues and the behaviors, but not the person. And that's part of what respect sometimes lets us do is keep it focused on this action, this whatever, the way we treat other people and allowing that core self, the soul, the whatever that's really the person to not be part of that conversation.

SPEAKER_02 12:23

Josh, you use an analogy with a piggy bank in some of your training that I think might be appropriate here if you would share that.

SPEAKER_05 12:30

Yeah, I remember Dr. Purvis actually at one of her conferences was talking about this that kids are like emotional piggy banks, that every time you meet their needs, that's like a deposit into their emotional piggy bank. And you do that in the first years of life from zero to three, which really has tons and tons of opportunities to meet the meet their needs. So they have a lot of trust developed in those first years of life, which kind of goes forward through once they kind of get older, they trust you, they have a better relationship with you, so they're more willing to do those things. But there's a lot of times when they become like 13, 14-year-olds, like you said, they start pushing against those boundaries where you have to redirect them. And what she said was the redirections are like a withdrawal from the emotional piggy bank. So hopefully you have enough money throughout the stored and you know, enough emotional capital in their piggy bank to be okay, right? Even though it's not fun, you're not overdrawn. But a lot of our kids, they don't have have that emotional capital in their piggy bank. So that's why when you redirect them, you get that disrespect because they're emotionally or they're they're yeah, they're bankrupt in their their capital.

SPEAKER_02 13:29

So that those deposits into the piggy bank is the strong positive relationship, right? That's the foundation for respect. And if and if those deposits haven't been made, there's nothing there when you go to to make a withdrawal, and that looks like disrespect. So especially for a lot of the kids that we serve, they they come into placement here with bankrupt.

SPEAKER_05 13:49

Insufficient funds.

SPEAKER_02 13:50

Insufficient funds. That's right. And so there's no there's no foundation for respect. The only way they're ever gonna have something in their piggy bank is if we extend that respect to them first, if we build that relationship first.

SPEAKER_05 14:03

And we look for opportunities to meet their needs. Yeah. Refill that piggy bank.

SPEAKER_03 14:07

You almost have to intentionally plan those. Planned deposits, right?

SPEAKER_05 14:11

So how is self-respect connected to respecting others and why does this matter for kids?

SPEAKER_02 14:16

You know, I think anytime kids feel bad about themselves, that that is evidenced by their behavior. If they have a lack of belonging or a lack of self-esteem, that their behavior looks like that, right? And so the more that we can help them self-respect themselves, the more again, they have something in their piggy bank and they can extend that to other people. But that you can't respect others. I don't think if you respect yourself, I think that's where it where it starts. And how have adults treated you in the past? How how have you been treated by your family members or your teachers or people in the community? Because that feedback from others creates your sense of self and whether you respect yourself or not.

SPEAKER_03 14:58

I think the other part of that is going to the piggy bank and some of the things that we've talked about before is when we talk about you have to respect people if they're not respectful to you, you have to have a certain level of self-worth to weather that wave to return the respect. That thing inside, that own value that you understand in yourself, my standard is better than this. And although this is not what I'm receiving, I can give back. But they've got to have a level of self-respect to set that standard in themselves and treat those other people that other way despite the wave they just get hit with.

SPEAKER_02 15:27

You know, and that that's hard even for us as adults, right? Because that that takes some cortex development. That means that you are sufficiently developed in your cortex so that you're not being driven by your emotional brain. Because when you're treated disrespectfully, your emotional brain wants to pop off back and say something, you know, rude or or react. And so having that ability to not react in the moment when you've been disrespected, that's a skill we have to build, right? That's not a skill we should expect children to automatically have. They have to have some experiences, they need some feedback about, you know, how do you think you handled that? What could you do differently in order to develop the ability for them not to react but instead respond?

SPEAKER_03 16:13

I think that's important for the adults too.

SPEAKER_02 16:15

Yeah. Oh yeah.

SPEAKER_03 16:16

Is that that we show this. How do we show them when we avoid that power struggle? Because they say the disrespectful thing to pull us into it. Right? How often do we, especially with adolescents, does the thing come out to pull us into the power struggle? And it's generally directly disrespectful in that moment, right? And how is the adults do we hold and stay in the right parts of our brain so that we can appropriately respond to that disrespect? And then what are we teaching kids, right? When in that moment we do it the right way. Can you say that again with a little respect? I heard what you said. Right? Classic care and purpose right there.

SPEAKER_00 16:48

Yep.

SPEAKER_03 16:48

Yeah.

unknown 16:49

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 16:49

I wonder if our if our automatic response is obviously it's fear-based kind of thing, right? Why? I'm losing control here. Well, the kids are going to be disrespectful if I let this kid disrespectful. You know what? One thing that needs to be clear to uh adults, you know, is that being respectful is not a sign of weakness, right? That actually you're teaching somebody that there's a different way to handle things. No matter what they throw at me, I can still choose to be respectful. And I can still choose my response. And also that also helps the kid. If it's a a heated moment, I can help them calm down some. But that that is the the main thing, is you what you were saying is I think is an ad an adult sometimes feel like they have to have a response. They don't take the time to give it a minute and think of a better response that doesn't make the situation worse. Or also, because it's really hard to get that back. If you're disrespectful back, it's very difficult to gain respect after that. That capital, like you said, Josh, doesn't come cheap. I mean, it's it's it's hard-earned to get that stuff. And when you have one moment of disrespect and you did it around a whole bunch of other kids, maybe you might drop a whole room worth of disrespect. Or, you know, in other words, you're in your in their eyes, maybe you drop a level over, or you're at their level. And if you're at their level, they're gonna treat you like they treat their peers. So we have to elevate ourselves to maybe act a little bit better, even if we're not expecting it.

Self-Respect Without Entitlement

SPEAKER_03 17:59

I think that's the other part though, is when we're teaching respect and how to maintain ourselves in a difficult situation, what we do, the kids see and they learn. And so when we do our EQ2 stuff and we talk about cool thoughts and good moves, one of our good ways that we can avoid making the disrespectful thing. There's a way to correct without being disrespectful. There's a way to lean in that way. But if I'm waiting till in the moment and on the fly to say the thing I'm gonna say, the right thing's not gonna come out. And so when we know our kids and we know what's coming and we know that this may happen, if you have those pre-planned, preset cool thought and good move, you know where you're going. And and TBRI, they they give us a lot of good moves. TBRI. And a lot of, you know, what we'd extrapolate as cool thoughts. And you can watch some of those old films with with Karen and watch her in that moment move from stern to soft to stern to soft. But she never gets disrespectful. And and there's a way to do that with respect and elegance. And the other thing is kids see that, and they will see that around when that kid gets up in your face and they start cussing. That's the worst. How I respond at that moment shows every other kid in the room the way things go. But a lot of times our instinctual response isn't going to put this where it needs to go. And they notice when that goes, and and we suggest that, hey, maybe you need to take a break for a minute. Let's come back when you're less heated. You being heated, me being heated isn't the way this turns out well for you. Right. The other kids notice that. And they notice that we take that moment, knowing that we will go overboard if we say the wrong thing there. The kids recognize that. It's it's important. The long game is important in respect with kids.

SPEAKER_05 19:25

So, how can parents help their kids develop healthy self-respect without drifting into a sense of entitlement or pride? Trevor Burrus, Jr.

SPEAKER_03 19:31

Self-respect is not the same as cockiness or pridefulness. But you have to teach the kids when they're going overboard. When is that too much? When when has it become about something outside and almost in your way you're showing your your self-esteem? When you're showing it in that way, it's actually disrespect. And that's part of the conversations we have to have. That's not the way, that's not okay. You can't do that.

SPEAKER_02 19:53

I think that kids being involved in sports is a really good opportunity for you to talk about how you feel good because you competed well or your team won, but also pointing out how to, you know, how do you how does that make you feel when your team loses or when you don't play well? And so how do you think the other team is feeling right now? I think there's so many moments that we have with kids where we we can take it to a deeper level just by asking those questions. Hey, your team won, you did great today. How do you feel about that? You know, and let them talk about that. And that's wonderful. You played your best, but also on days when things are hard, have that same conversation. How did that, how did that feel on days that you won and the other team lost? How do you think they felt? Like, how do you you know there in every athletic event I've ever been to that involved young kids and usually older kids too? Like at the end of a basketball game or a soccer game, both teams pass by each other and we give fist bumps or high fives, or why do you think we do that? What's the point of that? Right? That there's something bigger at play than who won and who lost. And so I think a lot of it is just adults choosing to have mindful conversations with their kids.

SPEAKER_03 21:04

And I think I'm totally stealing playing off what you did here. Okay. When I was looking, I was watching our I remember our girls' basketball game. There was one where it was a really our our girls play really hard with a lot of heart. And sometimes they're playing a lot more talented teams. And there was a game that was really close. And I remember one of our girls, she's a senior, she was playing at full whatever, and toward the end of the game, in a very emotional game, she fouled out. And I I'm not sure the foul was a good call. Probably was. I I can say that I I might be a little bit biased because who I was rooting for, but I thought I I I thought it was a charge and not a block. But anyways, and the the kid was hot and she was lost in her own emotions. And she goes stomping over the bench. But Coach Yarbrough, the girl's basketball coach, has an expectation of if you fell out of a game or you leave a game, you go over and shake that other coach's hand. And so she comes in full emotion because she's lost in her own emotion in that moment. She comes stomping over the bent, and Coach Yarbrough stops her. It was very relational. She stops her, looks at her, gets her to take a breath, and then she points to the other coach. And the girl, you can still see she's hot. And she's not hot with the other coach, but she's hot.

SPEAKER_04 22:08

Yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_03 22:08

She nods and stops over and shakes the other coach's head and says something nice and comes back. And then when she comes back, Coach Yarbrough kind of gives her the thank you, like the nod. And some of that is them understanding that part of being respectful is not getting lost in our own emotions. And feelings are good. Feelings are important. Knowing what my feelings are are huge. But I have to be able to move beyond my feelings in some situations to do the right thing. And it's not just my feeling. And I remember watching Yarbrough do that. And I thought, I'm up in the stands. I'm like, Yeah. Yeah. That's what I'm saying.

Media Culture And Modeling Respect

SPEAKER_02 22:39

I can remember more than one situation where a coach refused to shake a child's hand in that in that situation. So again, role model, right? Again, kids are always watching how we handle situations. Do we model respect? Do we not? And and if you think about what's going on in our culture, you see a lot of disrespect between adults. I'm going to call you guys out, but Josh and Sam are big reality show viewers, right? And so they they like to dissect episodes of Survivor that they've watched. Right. But but you know, those those people on those TV shows are being coached by the producers to be disrespectful to each other. That that's what they're being told to do. And so we're we're trying to counteract that as parents by teaching respect. And so sometimes it's a good idea to have conversations also. Hey, did you see? Like we're watching a show together. Hey, how do you think those two adults treated each other? What do you think about that? Don't just let kids consume social media or TV or movies without following that up with a conversation related to the values that you think are important for your family.

SPEAKER_03 23:48

And I think you make an important point because right now, the emotion, the disrespect, and the whatever, it's fun, it's catchy, it sells. And it's easy to throw on a 43-second video on YouTube Shorts or Facebook or whatever your social media platform of choices. And the kids are getting bombarded with and that's being lauded.

SPEAKER_04 24:07

Yes.

SPEAKER_03 24:08

Right? When that person's disrespectful and they whatever and da-da-da-da. They laud that. And I think as adults, it is our duty to fix that and to stop that and say, hey, look, let's talk about this. Was that thing okay? Also, as parents, like Suzanne said, do you allow that entertainment in your house? And as teenagers, they're still gonna find it, don't get me wrong. But they're not gonna find it with me. I have to be able to set those boundaries, which means there's some shows that I may like that we will not watch with the kids.

SPEAKER_00 24:34

Agreed. Fair.

SPEAKER_03 24:35

And maybe I should rethink if I'm watching that anyways. Yeah. Which is part of that conversation. But so much now we've let those things go and we've let it slide because I can remember this is gonna date me a little bit, but all us Gen Xers remember this, right? Remember when everybody's parents wouldn't let them watch The Simpsons?

SPEAKER_04 24:50

Oh, yeah. Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 24:50

Because Bart was too disrespectful. Yeah. And it went from this, well, it's funny we tolerated it's a cartoon, to socially, we've gone way beyond that and what we're letting the kids view that's respectful or disrespectful. And are you watching what your kids are watching? And what are they learning? Because some of those quick combat didn't come out of their own heads, came out of whatever cartoon you're watching that you weren't paying attention to that's sewing some things like that. And I just think we have to be super careful with our kids now. And what are they consuming because it affects them?

SPEAKER_02 25:17

And I don't think that you can look at kid channels and assume kid content is okay, right? You know, my my children are all grown. So, you know, even 10, 15, maybe 20 years ago, there were a lot of TV shows marketed to children where the dads were bumbling fools and the kids were solving all the problems. And so we did have to have conversations like that. Do you do you think it's reasonable that that the dad really doesn't know what's going on? Is that is that realistic, right? And that magically a 13-year-old kid knows all the answers to save the family? Because they were modeling disrespect towards a parent. And so I I think that's been a trend for many years now. So even if it's labeled kid friendly and and you you know which TV analysis I'm talking about, right? That you can't just assume because it's on that channel that it's appropriate.

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